Can better sex life give you a happier life

 Can a better sex life give you a happier life?



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There are several clinical studies on how regular sex life benefits your health:


  • Lower blood pressure.
  • Better immune system.
  • Better heart health, possibly including lower risk for heart disease.
  • Improved self-esteem.
  • Decreased depression and anxiety.
  • Increased libido.
  • Immediate, natural pain relief.
  • Better sleep due to reduced anxiety 


 Regular sex for men gives them an overall happier life and a higher chance to stay married. So they are not looking for an affair because of the hormonal euphoria caused by the orgasms.


However, these gains and benefits keep you dependent on sex to keep you happy.


It’s been also said that sex for a man is a physical need.


I would say sex rather is a biological need for reproduction. The hormones are giving you extra urges to spread your sperm so reproduction keeps going.


So there is a big difference between having an exclusive, intimate, and lifelong mutual understanding and consent for sex in a relationship or being addicted to whomever you get the opportunity.


Sex addiction costs you:

  • lots of resources ( time, energy, and money)
  • Makes most live a lie
  • A breakup and divorce
  • Losing your children
  • Losing your house
  • Losing your health and sanity
  • Money for regaining your mental health

Despite all that..


The sex industry is booming. You find articles on sex in magazines, sex is being used for inselling clothes, underwear, make-up, beauty items, cigarettes, alcohol, perfumes, and then selling sex toys.


We have sex coaches Tantric massage, and coaching for gentle sex because we lose our sensations and feelings to the other person.

Sex became a robotic activity, a daily task, or an anty- anxiety “pill”. 


Sex is the only common link that keeps two otherwise very different people together.


They say guys are thinking about the euphoric feeling all day.


Then comes the makeup sex — which should make everything better and right. However, it lasted only until the next fight sparked up.


Sex is like a drug and a multi-million dollar industry.


Young women make their first goal based upon the media that they should look more desirable and sexier in the bedroom so the guy will marry them and can ensure a better marriage to keep the guy from leaving.


Guys can make goals to sleep with x amounts of women because that gives them a sense of power and self-esteem.


Any tagline with sex in the media catches attention immediately.


My question is:

even though sex is so much at the center of attention and modern life revolves around it… so as younger and younger children are engaged in sexual activity.


—do we have a happier world overall?


As you see the facts in the world today —

It is full of taboos of the sexual entertainment industry of porn, then broken marriages.

Then the affairs which are in some cultures are tolerated by the women, however, it is causing multiple broken relationships and leaving children emotionally wounded to the point of suicide and wanting to have a sex change surgery.


Can we truly see that better sex can be a solution to all your deep emotional problems?


It’s 2023, time to rethink and realize that your deep-rooted unhappiness from your childhood needs to be addressed and transformed so healthy, emotionally balanced children can grow up to live responsible lives.


May we all reach inner peace, wisdom, and love unconditionally ourselves and all beings


Lot’s of Love,


Dr. Zsu

The founder of the Alive program, helping those who like to live free from their sexual dependencies — creating a meaningful life

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