Uncover your embarrassment

 How liberating would it  be to walk freely and confidently in public? 🙏❤️


 TO TAKE OFF and let go of your shyness🙏🌈 ✅


                                                    Photo: Unsplash.com

 because You don't care what anyone says about you anymore, 👉🏻


 😍how you look


 🩱what are you wearing and


 🧘‍♀️what are you doing


 Because you know who you are and why you are here..

So you CAN

💃 Be like Audrey Hepburn”—to walk and carry yourself  as a lady with a confident smile and the power of gentleness.


 🌟 Can say NO politely to something which doesn’t serve you


 😎Can  filter out which is the real man - a gentleman- that you want to let close, because you sense the truth


 Why are these still a WISH for you?

- Because of your  internal  pressure, the compulsion to to keep  proving yourself

Keep proving yourself beyond a lot of stress and tension… It leads to restlessness and saying and doing things that you regret later.


The urge to prove yourself  comes from the Humiliation emotional wound ....


 The humiliation emotional wound —the extreem shyness was awakened in you by your mother.


 Wanting the best for you —your mother wanted you to do everything perfectly right away, because then, for her, it is proof that she is doing great as a mother.


 And anything that you do as a small child, which holds back your mother to do well in this role - will make her to criticize and devaluate you.

Few examples:

 "You dropped food on yourself again and Now I have wash your clothes again"

 "Big girl doesn't pee in her pants anymore"


 "What are doing! It’s humiliating! You make me look like a bad mother!”

 "What will neighbors say if they see you this way?”


Please read these sentences again by being aware-

None of this was not about you as a child, but about your mother and whether she is doing her job as a mother.


 That's why she has those comments about your appearance or your actions... even today when you are grown up!

She feels ashamed because she was brought up the same way by your grandma.. she was not good enough .. and she learnt to take all  you do personally.

 You also developed the same shameful feelings.

 because you received conditional love, 

 learned that you have to achieve something,

 have to do it well

 have to do as they say so

To get acknowledgment and feel valuable and loved.


 And today, as an adult, you carry these emotional wounds too.

 

 WHAT does the humiliation wound makes you do as as adult??


 - You swallow and believe what others say about you out of malice or fear


 - You take on burdens that are not yours


 - You like attention, but most of the time you keep it to yourself


 - You help with good intentions and then if they refuse it, you take it personal—because you didn't have enough sophistication to deliver your help, which makes them want to choose it.  You constantly want to sell yourself and your knowledge.


 - You are ashamed of yourself in a swimsuit. You are ashamed of your overweight because you hate the way you look


 - That's why you don't go to gymn  or places where you accidentally can compare yourself to others


 - You're not good enough, that's why you put yourself last.. you become a servant to others and then you yourself grumble inside that you couldn't say no


 - You repeatedly resent the fact that you take on more work load and emotional load  so as the  extra pounds


 - You want the result right away and you don't have time to wait for the process


 - You make sarcastic remarks, which you regret again because the rifle usually backfires


 - Self-love was replaced by food


 - You become a maximalist overachiever in your work, so you will probably become a specialist in some field


 - You cling on people, things, objects, habits-/ mostly you insist on hearing that they love you..

 you are precious

 you are pretty or beautiful


 Embarrassment and feeling of humiliation can appear in  combination with other emotional wounds, which then forms additional automatic behaviors and habits that hinder your happiness.


 I know that upon hearing these, shame and embarrassment comes up again as a feeling - because you don’t have any other feelings to replace it..


 This feeling is not you!!🙏🌟🌟🌟🌟❤️


 If you can put this aside now and write a message, you can take a giant step forward for yourself so that you can finally live with love freely and confidently with the power of tenderness.  ..


 I wish you a confident day with lots of love❤️


 Dr. Zsu

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