What is a perfect relationship?


Thank you dear Friends for such an immense response to the question: 

„What is the perfect relationship”






We received a wide variety of answers, defining aspects that make living together with each other a peaceful journey.

I am so very happy to see how many of us are awakened to the fact that it depends on our growth to make it or break it.

 

There were also those of you saying that there is no such a thing as a perfect relationship. Maybe the ideal relationship is a better word?

 

Thank you also for your patience to wait out my answer to the question:

My answer is my opinion and working practice.

 

Very rightly as many of you were saying: One must define what „Perfect” means.

I believe that every one of us is in a relationship to grow. 


Fort hat matter, you are in the perfect place to receive all that you need.

 

The number one ingredient which will make this journey- having the same goals in life. And it is your journey in the frame of our partner, is your commitment to growing and therefore the commitment to stay there and work it out with loving-kindness. You do that, both of you to reach that goal together.

So having at least one common goal which is beyond materialistic things is the key.

The second is to define love together and have a mutual understanding that Love is one-way giving.

Then there are all the rest of the characteristics, with mutual understanding of the definition and practical application-- as you were saying it so excellently: 


  • Trust, honesty, devotion, patience, 
  • acceptance and gratitude, having no expectation
  • standing by thick and thin, supporting the other’s person dream, 
  • Being happy for their happiness
  • Encourage, acknowledge, and respect
  • Giving as much as one can and being able to say no kindly.
  • Teamwork and role distribution
  • At times and in different aspects of your life your spouse will be leading you and teaching you, and other times you will take that role. The smooth realization of this along makes the dance flow with the music
  • Compassion and good-will
  • Attention, listening, objective observation and communication,
  • Be the one who the other person fear will dissolve

Being aware of your conditioning and working them out to an extent that you can manage another person in your life is another key point before entering into a relationship in my opinion. 

Accepting your relationship as a growing platform, a part of your journey can greatly help you to stop craving for another relationship or people who are more patient or more this or that. 

 

I am firmly standing by that love can bring transformation to everyone. We have seen many instances of violent people who are changed by love. This change may not occur to everyone in this life.

 

Having developed insight and understanding of the place where the other person stands along with unconditional pure love flowing in you will bring you guidance about the relationship and your exact role in it.

 

 One must understand that we are all conditioned. Your partner with his or her anger issues is also conditioned. 

 

There are instances you must leave them by having deepest peace and wish them the best. There are cases they need other experiences than the one you could provide. You must leave a place where your well-being is threatened. You must leave skillfully and in peace.

Your job by you leaving may have been to bring the other person to the realization that they must clean themselves out.

 

My husband and I came together by so-called divine guidance. We both had to make a decision and walk on the path of truth first. Which is a rough and painful experience for the ego. That was the path of salvation though. Only after that did make God visible to each other. No one can understand the magic God is creating by knowing exactly what you need. We are two very very different people. As I have been saying it's a funny joke of God by putting us together, however, we feel that we are traveling towards our highest goal. More stories about us in our Soulmate group. *

 

Your relationship is perfect for your age, and your maturity to provide you the „playground” to build a castle, have a family and fulfill your dreams.

The most important for me is to make you realize, that you must have a common goal. Before you start looking for the perfect him or her, sit down and work out your highest goal in your life. 

If you are in a relationship now and you don't have this goal, then make one. 

I second this saying:

It is not the journey, but who you are traveling with.

 

Awaken to your journey and you will have others joining in. You will have other people joining in for sure. If not for marriage but as a friend for sure. And as one of you was highlighting having a friend for life is a perfect relationship. Begins with being your friend and finding home within your mind, heart, and body.

 

Any specific questions, comment – kindly DM me  drzsu@drzsu.com

 

*For detailed discussions on relationships welcome you to our new private Soulmate group on fb. #findingtruelovegroupbydrzsu 

This is not a dating site but a place you receive tools on how to get ready to attract your soulmate. I am sharing lots of practical tools and real-life examples from my life as well. Exclusive subject – topics and discussions only in the group, only for those who are wanting to have the Soulmate in their lives.


Lots of Love,

Dr. Zsu

 

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